My youngest sister was married 9 years and suddenly decides that the abuse she is suffering is too much to tolerate any more
My middle sister has been married 18 years her husband has denied having affairs etc.
this past two weeks we have been hit by numerous revelations that has thrown us all.
He left her and has been disfellowshipped(no longer being one of Jehovah's Witnesses) and admitting to other things I and everyone else never would have suspected of him.
So I and my family are in a state of shock right now, his daughters especially his oldest (she is 12)
is having a difficult time of it.
the upside is everyone who has found out about it even periphally has been supportive of our family.
Of that I am greatful especially for my sister.
Life can be messy, but it is worth the struggle even when it is difficult.
but it is overcoming the pain that can be worse.

Hang in there, at least things are out in the open now. I am sure your sister appreciates your support.

I think Ross said it well. I hope you and your family weather it and become stronger now that it's out there.

Just be there for your sisters. The abused and the hurt don't let on, even to their family. Instead of saying "I should have noticed" say "I'm here for you".

Yes. And give them room. Listen when they want to talk about it; don't press them to say anything when they don't. And leave it up to them when and how to break the news to people outside the family.

I try to be supportive it is hard when i feel angry about what has happened. I am the oldest and i am supposed to be the one to protect them.
They sometimes act like I am the youngest one and naive. But just being available is the best thing I can be, I know that.
Thanks guys.....

My brother-in law has moved out of his home and told his 12 year old daughter it was for her and her 2 yr old sister. If he was going to do something for their sakes it wouldn't be move out and get an apartment with the woman who has turned out to be in her mid to late 40's and a mother and grandmother as well.
she is older than me and my sisters. He had originally claims she was young and an inactive Witness.
This was evidently a lie on top of all the other lies. He had also said he wanted to work things out but the moving was already in the works because where he moved to was an apartment complex you have to apply for in advance and be on a waiting list.
My oldest niece was devastated. the younger one being two, has asked "When daddy home?"
Sis had to tell her"Daddy doesn't sleep here anymore."
Regan said "Oh Daddy working."
we wonder if this is the other shoe or if something else is going to happen..................

Sounds tough on the kids but probably for the best.

Thanks Ross, your right
He decided he wants a divorce and my sister is agreeable
this website has an article that describes and discusses the ill effects porn has on an individual and the family, my sister says it describes her husband to a tee.
that is what is sad.
http://www.watchtower.org/e/20030722/article_03.htm

From what I understand now, after some of the dust has settled, he hasn't even told the "new" lady of his problems and addictions, My sister having only found out somethings from an old friend of her huband's, she made a final decision, for her sake and her girls. He wasn't going to have the final say over her life and have the last word. ALso she has the right for a scriptural divorce on the grounds of his infidelity and abandonment. The girls have the right to see their mommy stand tall and be in the right on this issue, not succombing to ineffectual grief, she still gets sad, that is only natural. But now she has found her inner strength, I am very proud of her. She knows she can rely on God and lean on her family when she needs to. Of that I am also happy about, she could have let this destroy her, I have been in that place emotionally, being rejected is hard to deal with, finding the strength to carry on only makes you stronger and beter able to deal with anything that is thrown at you, even if you don't always believe that of yourself.
ANd for me, being able to shush the thousands of thoughts running around in my head helps too...
That is one reason I like to write or draw, It is a release and being better able to organize myself, whether I am here or in a journal. It doesn't matter, just letting the thoughts flow a little is wonderful. I encourage both my niece and nephews to write and draw too.
They have amazing insights and are freer to express themselves when they do,
I need to suggest that to my sister , she could have a good vent that way....

This is good advice.

I will say a prayer for you and yours.

My sister is now in the hospital with a gall bladder attack and surgery tommorrow.
with everything else this is the last thing she needed.
so we have the baby tonight and hopefully everything will be okay tommorrow..........

The Surgery went well, and she stayed with us for a few days when she got out of the hospital last thursday. She went home today.
We had a scare with my brother-in-law keeping the oldest daughter and not telling my sister, the he let his "girl-friend" take her back to school the next day. When Sis heard that she was very upset, her daughter was supposed to stay with her "Nanna" and go to school from there, her "Nanna" thought she was going to spend the night at her friends house.

Smile lyrics
Songwriters: Bose, Jeremy; Daly, Blair; Harding, J; Shafer, Matthew;
"Uncle Cracker"

You're better than the best
I'm lucky just to linger in your light
Cooler than the flip side
Of my pillow, that's right

Completely unaware
Nothing can compare to where
You send me, lets me know that it's okay
Yeah, it's okay
And the moments where my good times start to fade

You make me smile like the sun, fall out of bed
Sing like bird, dizzy in my head
Spin like a record, crazy on a Sunday night

You make me dance like a fool, forget how to breathe
Shine like gold, buzz like a bee
Just the thought of you can drive me wild
Oh, you make me smile

Even when you're gone,
Somehow you come along just like
A flower pokin' through the sidewalk crack
And just like that
You steal away the rain, and just like that

You make me smile like the sun, fall out of bed
Sing like bird, dizzy in my head
Spin like a record, crazy on a Sunday night

You make me dance like a fool, forget how to breathe
Shine like gold, buzz like a bee
Just the thought of you can drive me wild
Oh, you make me smile

Don't know how I lived without you
'Cause every time that I get around you
I see the best of me inside your eyes
You make me smile

You make me dance like a fool, forget how to breathe
Shine like gold, buzz like a bee
Just the thought of you can drive me wild

You make me smile like the sun, fall out of bed
Sing like bird, dizzy in my head
Spin like a record, crazy on a Sunday night

You make me dance like a fool, forget how to breathe
Shine like gold, buzz like a bee
Just the thought of you can drive me wild
Oh, you make me smile
(Oh, you make me smile)
Oh, you make me smile
(Oh, you make me smile)
Oh, you make me smile


my new favorite feel goof song

Update:
It has been only a week after my sister let him come home, she decided she couldn't trust him again. And then she found out he was still in communication with his "ex" girlfriend. She decided she was going to leave him and she did. she moved in with a friend of hers temporarily. but left everything behind and he got the house. I hope that everything works out but she is deciding for herself what she wants. This saturday we had a family reunion, with my father's three brothers and their sister and all the kids and grandkids, it was fun; and exhausting. I always wind up being the "babysitter" maybe because the kids like me to play with them